SUBMISSION: LIFE GOALS & SINGLE MOM-NESS

This is for all the single mothers. This is for all the single fathers. This is also for the grandparents, aunts, uncles or whatever role you have in this precious child's life. Parenting a child or children, is a journey and struggle in itself. It's a physically and mentally exhausting journey but SO incredibly worth it.

My biggest and greatest blessing is my 11 year old son. He unknowingly gives me the strength, courage, motivation and inspiration to be my best self and update to my best version of me while also embracing the best version of him at the same time. Being a parent is the utmost amazing and rewarding experience. I love motherhood with a passion, the great and amazing moments to the gross and frustrating moments.

Are there challenges and struggles as a single parent? YES! Does it mean it's not worth it? Absolutely NOT! I wouldn't trade being a mother for the world. I mean, yes, I wish it were a lot easier to be a single mother and excel in life at the same time. From trying to figure out who I am as an individual, what career I want, what my passions and hobbies are, figuring out exactly what makes ME unique as a person, and the list goes on. I see SO many individuals knowing exactly how to succeed in the world and make a difference while making loved ones proud of them and of themselves. I know I will get there one day. We all will, despite our situations.

Being a single parent doesn't mean you will never succeed or advance in life; it just means that it might take us longer to get there. I write this piece because it has also been heavy on my heart, mind and soul because I know I am meant to do AMAZING things and to make a positive difference in this world. It brings me so much joy and warmth to lift others up and to bring them positivity and encouragement. I know I will do great things in life, but right now my main focus is to raise, inspire and teach my child to also be a great human so he will carry on to do amazing things and to mold him into an amazing humble man, loyal husband and supportive father.

As I end my entry, just remember, it's amazing to have goals and dreams for yourself but do not get discouraged if you feel like you're slacking or slower than your friends, family members or acquaintances. We all have different feet walking on this trail called life! We are all headed in the same direction but our different feet will carry us differently. I have to remind myself of this daily because I get overwhelmed and feel like a failure because I don't have a career that's helping me serve my community or because I don't feel like I'm really making a difference but when I witness my son helping me with chores around the house or running out of his way to open the door for an elderly woman; I am beyond proud. I have faith that after my moments and time of raising a great man, that I will be able to reach out to others in the world to inspire, teach and encourage also.

 

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My name is Samantha Thomas, a single mother of one Au-some son (diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome, ADHD and Sensory Processing Disorder).  I'm a lover of ALL things and don't have favorites of any kind.  I'm a tornado of smiles, heartfelt compassion, emotions and love.